Everyone is sensitive to failure and not living up to expectations. It can be very frustrating to see your child hold back and not give it their all. Today kids are really sensitive to making sure they look good in their friends eyes. As a parent it can be painful to witness their fear getting the better of them. This can really have some long term negative effects on kids when they are afraid of giving it their best, even worse how many positive learning opportunities they can be missing out on when they hold back. So as a parent how an we help them overcome these life challenges.
Remembering the wins, helps them to push through the barriers. If you see your child nervous or scared, help them see all of the wonderful things they are great at, this will help give them the foundation to overcome holding back or feeling anxious.
Baby steps are the key to help them to stop worrying about the outcome just focus on one thing at a time. With the right mind set your child can have some positive steps in the right direction that can set them up for success.
Teach your child to see failure as their friend, we do not learn and grow from our wins but we do when things don’t go as planned. When your child has a setback, help them to stay in control and breath. We have a saying in our martial arts class “don’t freak out, figure it out”. Ask them what they learned from the event and then give direction on how to use that knowledge so they can make some adjustments to be better next time.
Be the best cheerleader they can have. Encourage them to step out of their comfort zone. Challenging them to grow as a person will take some time but when they do have the courage to overcome their fears and to reach their goals. Start with something small, One of our challenges for our students is to try a new food. Stacking small wins consistently has major positive effects on their belief system. As your child’s confidence grows their fears disappear.
At Sidekicks we use martial arts as a vehicle to help kids grow as leaders. A full Personal Development Center that helps kids build the YES I CAN Attitude. We provide structure and support to help them grow into the best version of themselves.
